Yesterday somebody did something to someone very dear to me. It felt like what was done to her was also done to me and I was left thinking: is there anyone that I can trust in this world?? When our hearts are broken we tend to overgeneralize the things we experienced with one person to everyone else in this universe.
It reminds me of a fb-update I wrote last year:
“They say that you should have no expectations in order to avoid disappointments, but are respect and kindness such an exceptional characteristic of the people that we cant even expect that??”
The same goes for trust. It has become so rare.. but not so surprisingly, trust is a characteristic of a piety, and as there are very few people left who are pious there’s also a scarcity of reliable people.
Imagine this, would a righteous scholar ever break your trust, or would your trust for him/her increase everytime you met?
Anyways, let’s go back to reality, as none of us (who’s reading this) is a righteous scholar and we have ALL let down someone whether knowingly or unknowingly.
How many times did we hide things from our family, friends and teachers? And what happened when they found out? They had exactly the same feeling as you and I are having at this moment. They had never expected this from us, sounds familiar doesn’t it?
So we accept that breaking people’s trust is what every human being does.. Allah says in surah al-i imran, verse 134:
“Those who spend (benevolently) in ease as well as in straitness, and those who restrain (their) anger and pardon men; and Allah loves the doers of good (to others).”
Don’t you want Allah to love you? Every time you are let down by someone you have the choice to forgive them and in return you get the love of Allah. How great is that! Surely anyone’s love is worth giving up if we can get Allah’s love through this.
Alhamdulillah Allah wants to love us and He wants us to love and trust Him more than anyone.
But He also wants us to love and forgive each other, this is the condition that Allah gives us to be of the muhsineen. Why is it so important to forgive others? Just imagine how our ummah would be if nobody forgave each other, if no parent forgave their child, if no man forgave his brother and no woman her sister in islam? Unfortunately we don’t even have to imagine because anywhere we look we see people holding grudges against each other to the point where families have fallen apart and communities are at unrest.
And if you do not forgive people and forsake their mistakes, who will also suffer? YOU, because you’re heart contains bad feelings towards another muslim, how will it be received on the day of judgment?
Allah says in surah al-‘adiyaat, verses 9-11:
“Does he not then know when what is in the graves is raised, and what is in the breasts is made apparent? Most surely their Lord that day shall be fully aware of them.”
We have the choice to come on the day of judgment with a clean heart, one like that of the sahabi who would enter jannah because he didn’t hold any grudges against any muslim. Or we can come with a filthy heart, filled with feelings that will be of no benefit to us.
Our time in this world is limited and will come to an end very soon. Let’s make the best of our lives and see the best in each other. Let’s forgive, trust and love each other again, not out of naivety, but of good intention and humility. Let’s recognize our own faults and remember that nobody is perfect..
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